So for the last few days me and the girlfriend were SURE she was pregnant, she had all the early signs, we had a night a week ago that we had a bit of a slip up and let things get a bit out of control. We were both crazy nervous about it but decided if she was that we would keep the baby, and take care of it. I'm 21, she's 22. She'll be done her degree one month before the baby would have been due, and I would have had a year and a half of part time classes left. She took one of those early pregnancy tests today and it came back negative. I had such mixed emotions... like we're still young, still in school for a bit, both working part time, we have only been seeing each other a few months. Part of me is revealed, because the thought of tell friends and god the parents, is just scary. But at the same time I've been working in a place where I see people dying atleast once a day and it makes me really want to make sure if something happens to me that I've left a part of me behind, so yes I want children, and no I don't want to wait forever but I donno it just seems like the perfect time will never come, like she's starting med school next year, possibly paid for by the army in which case thats 4-6 years of med school and like 2-4 years of residency and 4 years in the army, thats almost close to her being in her 40's, getting too old to have kids... this would have actually been a great time, have the kid start her schooling, I'd only have a few months left of school by the time she'd start her schooling. She told me she felt mixed emotions too, she did feel revealed and a bit disappointed, she's had a miscarriage in a previous relationship that she had actually wanted to keep, and I actually think she may want what I want, but now I'm thinking after this, we may not get another chance for a long time, she sees why it may not be the best time too, and even though she doesn't NOT like the idea of having a child she's talking about getting clamped so she can't have kids for 5 years... which is a long time, past the average age of 26 for most people... I'm disappointed I wont lie, and she said she is as well, this might have worked out for the best but for all those who have had scares like this, is it normal to feel disappointed like this? Thanks all, and sorry for the long question ;)