Hello! I have a wonderful girlfriend who is, unfortunately, easily upset. By "upset" what I mean is angry and irate. When I tell her that X is not worth her getting upset over it makes her even more angry. Can anyone think of a psychological/rhetorical strategy to calm her down that does not use the phrase (or a close equivalent of) "it is not worth being upset over"? She says that I trivialize her emotions/feelings by telling her that something is not worth getting upset over. There must be some other option rather than just "respecting" her emotions and suffering as the storm rages, right? Any thoughts and words of wisdom are appreciated! Note: I am a very tactful man (most of the time, I am human after all). I say this to eliminate the possibility that might arise in some of your minds that I might well be a thoughtless, insensitive clod which is justifiably causing my girlfriend to be upset and then further upset when I tell her it is not worth getting upset over. To reiterate, I am not perfect, but I have NEVER had similar problems with other girlfriends.